Influencer: The Power to Change Anything

I am reading the book Influencer: The Power to Change Anything. It is written by the folks at Vital Smarts. Vital Smarts is a consulting firm specializing in corporate and organizational training. They also wrote two best selling books, Crucial Conversations and Crucial Confrontations which I have not read. The administrative team at ISB is reading the book together.


Since becoming an international school administrator several years ago, I have been read more of these types of books. Most of my time is spent interacting with parents, students, and teachers and I found that literature on people skills help me in forming better relationships. Better relationships mean that the school functions better and most importantly, students learn more. I enjoy this aspect of international school life and the relationships I have made throughout my career are one of the most rewarding parts of my job.

This was a great book to read. It reinforces some of my ideas in my management style and gives me some new things to think about and hopefully implement. For anyone that works with others (as most of us do these days) and especially for those in a management position, I highly recommend this book. I am looking forward to discussing it with my colleagues.

My notes follow and these will assist me in understanding the book and putting into practice some of the strategies.

The premise of the book is that we all want to influence more the people in our lives. In my case, it would be at work the parents, teachers, and students, but also at home my children, wife, and friends. The Vital Smarts team details the steps anyone can take to have more influence on the lives of others. It discards the saying, “The serenity to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” The authors claim that some things we think we can’t make a difference, we actually can, as they write, “…if you want to change the world, you eventually have to change how people behave. And if you want to change how they behave, you have to first change how they think.”

The authors use the work of many influence experts that I should do further research, especially the work of Albert Bandura, Fred Steele, and the Delancey Project.

Part I “Choose Influence over Serenity”

When confronting an organizational problem or system…

Principle #1 Always search for behaviors (specific ones you want to change)

Principle #2 Focus on just a few “high leverage” or vital behaviors. Research on best practices will guide me in this area. There are always just a few behaviors that really make a difference. They point out the work of Dr. Ethna Reid, a reading specialist. In order to raise reading comprehension levels of students, she found two key behaviors that good teachers did that average/bad teachers didn’t do. The first was to “use praise versus punishment” and to “ alternate between teaching and questioning/testing then make immediate corrections. This instead lecturing on for a long time and let students then struggle on a big portion of material.

Another example of a key behavior was in patient satisfaction at a hospital. After lots of research, they found very simply that doctors and nurses only had to “smile, make eye contact, identify yourself, let people know what you’re doing and why, and end every interaction by asking, ‘Is there anything else that you need.’” to increase patient satisfaction survey results.

Principle #3 Search for recovery behaviors. People are going to make mistakes, so you have to develop a recovery plan.

Principle #4 Test Your Results. Develop the habit of conducting rapid, low-risk, mini-experiments.

Changing People’s Behavior
When people are asked to change a behavior, you need to have them answer only two questions:

1) Is it worth it? (If not, why waste the effort.)
2) Can they do this thing? (If not, why try.)

Most people carry around thoughts that are incomplete or inaccurate. To try to change these, verbal persuasion rarely works. The great persuader is personal experience. We need to create a surrogate or vicarious experience. A great technique is to use dramatic stories instead of statistics and charts. Stories suck people in and take away their distrust of your ability and your motives. The poignant story is much better than a pep talk. With the stories, one needs to offer an option for next steps to take to avoid terrible ends.

Part II Make Change Inevitable Through the 6 Sources of Influence
Source #1 (personal) Make the Undesirable Desirable

• Try it, you’ll like it sometimes a good strategy
• Turn it into a game or keep score with frequent feedback
• The biggest motivator of excellence are intrinsic. They have to do with a person’s accountability to himself/herself. Stimulate internal motivation by having them invest themselves in an activity. It will become a measure of who they are and the high standards will be a measure of who they will be. When people are able to meet their personal standards, they feel validated and fulfilled and living up to the image of who they want to be. Have people see their choices in daily behavior as moral quests or personally defining moments. Keep this perspective despite distractions and emotional stress. Think about having people connect their actions to their values.
• “humanize” your actions and take responsibility – moral disengagement always accompanies political, combative, and self-centered behavior
• When trying to get someone to change, replace judgment with empathy and lectures with questions, dictates with dialogue, (this will be good with entry plan interviews)

Source #2 (personal) Surpass Your Limits (through practice)

• Interesting study done on children with the marsh mellow test on children. Good to learn the “delayed gratification” techniques can be learned.
• If one wants to be great at anything, it takes “deliberate practice” on specific, detailed fundamentals
• Simple tasks like typing, tennis, etc. take about 50 hours to reach our highest proficiency and then no advance. Most people after 5 years of working reach their highest level and then plateau. It takes “deliberate practice” to continue to get better. It is using time wisely and concentrated effort.
• Students can high level concentrate for 1 hour max (mornings best) and then 5 hours maximum of practice – school schedule implications?
• The number of hours one practices is far less important than receiving clear and frequent feedback against a known standard. Once again, short intervals between teaching and testing. Set mini-goals and provide constant feedback against them.
• Experts tend to focus on small but vital aspects of their play and scrupulously compare one round to the next. Make complex tasks simple, long tasks short, vague specific, etc.
• Rapid positive feedback builds self confidence. When failure comes, which it inevitably will, sometimes it signals greater effort or persistence. Often however, a change in strategy is needed.
• A long section on how to switch off the “flight or fight” response when dealing with others and going into the deliberate thinking mode.

Source #3 (social) Harness Peer Pressure

Humans place a high premium on the approval of others. They need praise, emotional support, and encouragement from those around them. When dealing with a group, it is vital to find the “early adopters” the 13.5% of the population who are socially connected and respected, these are the opinion leaders, and the other 85% will follow. Interview questions should include this question. Influencers need to spend more time with them. People (including teenagers) pay attention to individuals they respect and trust and that can be gained by frequently interacting with them.

The second part of the chapter goes into the code of silence in many organizations. It is not politically acceptable to speak openly about what is wrong, this sustains unhealthy behavior. Influencers need to create an environment where formal and informal leaders relentlessly encourage vital behaviors and skillfully confront negative behaviors.

Source #4 (social) Find Strength in Numbers

This chapter is all about social capital. Social capital is the idea that groups of people working together function better than any one individual. Studies show that groups of 7-10 are ideal and can come up with better ideas than someone working alone. This comes into play when you think colleagues are the problem. Instead of attacking them, “co-opt them.” The Delancey project concept of “minyans” are great.

A new idea that I want to implement is the fact that teachers learn more than students! All teachers know this. The Delancey project does not use professional teachers, coaches, and counselors. They have residents help each other because of the idea that “teachers learn more than students, mentors more than mentees, and trainers more than trainees, so why restrict all this important learning to outside professionals who have already been to school?” How can I use this with our ISB students?

• NQ – Network Quotient more important than IQ – essential to find people who can make up for your blind spots.
• To improve with anything, ex) public speaking, get a personal coach for the real-time feedback from an expert. They only do this in sports, why not other areas?
• When establishing an organizational culture, solidarity is important. Everyone must implement the tough standards or it doesn’t work. Ex) both mom and dad “no means no”

Source #5 (structural) Design Rewards and Demand Accountability

Extrinsic rewards should be the last strategy implemented. First use intrinsic satisfaction, then social support before going to extrinsic awards. Rewards are good to use if they are given soon and are tied to a vital behavior. The thought behind the award is more important than the monetary value of the award. Reward small improvements in behavior along the way instead of the results at the end. Praise is important and pay attention to small improvements.

Punishment is unavoidable and necessary. It is good to “place a shot across the bow” or in other words a clear warning that negative things will be happening if they should continue down their current path. Ask the question, “What does it take to get fired here?”
The key point is “that if you aren’t willing to go to the mat when people value a core value, that value loses its moral force in the organization.”

Source #6 (structural) Change the Environment

This is an area I can improve in as I don’t think much about it. The physical space is soooo important. Office needs to be approachable to employees, not the 480 feet of Hitler (propinquity). The chapter also touches on the “broken tile” that I always talk about. That disordered surroundings send out an unspoken message but powerful message that encourages antisocial behavior (NY subway example). Environmental changes are easier than people changes because things never resist change and remain so forever. Some examples:
• Diet Tips – Smaller plates, cups mean less food consumed, sweets inaccessible places
• Exercise – Put treadmill in common area not isolated basement or exercise room
• Excess Paper Use – Put cost of packet of paper on the package itself or near photocopier (making the invisible visible)
• Information affects behavior – give teachers data that will shake them up; one idea I have is to find out the IB scores of schools in the CEESA region
• Remember that it is hard for teachers to act in a balanced way when they don’t have access to an admin data stream
• The frequency and quality of human interaction is largely a function of physical distance. Applications – Put students in conflict together in a positive project – an early field trip – teachers meeting with food, when they casually bump into each other, common planning occurs
• Most common predictor if colleagues collaborate is distance 30m — 90 m
• Change the system when finding ways “to motivate people to continue with their boring, painful, dangerous, or otherwise loathsome activities”
• Make the right behavior easier to do than the wrong behavior
• Often the lure of gambling in casinos is the interaction with others, not the gambling itself
• Meet regularly with employees to solicit ideas / put the positive behavior into the agenda of a meeting
• Look up the work of Fred Steele

Conclusion: Become an Influencer
One needs to put into practice ALL six sources to become an influencer.

Common Vocabulary
propinquity
social capital
fragging
NQ network quotient
opinion leaders
deliberate practice
delayed gratification
experience vs. verbal persuasion
vital behaviors
recovery behaviors

Owen’s Kindergarten Reflections

Owen this past school year was enrolled as a kindergarten student. He had Nadia for a teacher. At the end of the year, Nadia asked the students to write about each other. She collected them in a book and it makes a great memory of the their year together. I also think that it gives good insight into the personality of Owen. I feel that people do grow and mature, but their basic nature doesn’t change much throughout their lives. Here are some excerpts on what the children had to write about their friend Owen.

Joaquin – “I like Owen because he has yellow hair and he is more funny then everybody in the world.”

Camila – “I like Owen because he is beautiful and the color of Owen is red.”

Maximo – “I like Owen because he is funny and Owen is crazy.”

Cristina – “I like Owen because he is beautiful and he is crazy and he is cute. Owen is nice with me and he plays with me.”

Valeria – “I love Owen because he plays tag and transformers and Pokemon and he tries to kiss us and hug us.”

Glenn – “I like Owen because he has pretty hair and Owen has a pretty house”

So basically, Owen has yellow hair and is a fun-loving guy.

Family Journal: Monday July 7, 2008

Andy Enjoys a Pasty, originally uploaded by bill kralovec.

My brother Andy is enjoying a Yooper pasty. He recently got a job at the international school in Quito, Ecuador (Cotopaxi). Congratulations!!!

The pasty is a regional dish of the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. Michigan has two peninsulas surrounded by the Great Lakes. The northern peninsula is known as the Upper Peninsula or UP. It is about the size of Maryland and looks like a running rabbit. It is surrounded mostly by water – Lake Superior on the northern side and Lake Michigan on much of the southern side. There is a section connected to Wisconsin. The border is marked by the Brule and Menominee rivers. It is a land of forests, lakes, and rivers. The UP has very cold winters with areas near Lake Superior receiving much snow. It is one of the few regions in the US with its own distinct culture.

The “pasty” was brought to the UP by immigrant miners from Cornwall, England. The copper and tin mines of Cornwall in the late 1800’s were running out of minerals and Cornish miners (known as Cousin Jacks) immigrated in vast numbers looking for work. It coincided nicely with the iron and copper mining boom in the UP at the time. The people of Cornwall developed the pasty and it is mentioned in a couple of Shakespeare plays.

The pasties of the UP are baked with a thick dough covering. Inside they are filled with potatoes and beef. Some have rutabagas and onions. There are variations of pasties, with some shops offering vegetarian, pizza, fish, etc. They are a meal in itself and are eaten with lots of ketchup. Owen loves them and even Oliver eats the pasty nuggets made by the Pasty Corner shop in Iron River.

Our vacation continues here at my parent’s home in Caspian. Yesterday I had a physical for my life insurance. We spent most of the day packing and organizing boxes stored at my parents house. We did find time to go up to the West Iron County High School gymnasium with the boys and for an evening swim at Sunset Lake. It was in the 90’s. Ocean now crawls the length of the house and is getting into everything. She pulls herself up on the couch and is standing quite well. She is getting fatter and cuter!!!! Nadia is seeing some success in weaning her. My mom is feeling much better. Owen had his first sleepover at his cousin Tony’s house yesterday.

SHARK!!!!!! Family Journal July 6, 2008

SHARK!!!!!!, originally uploaded by bill kralovec.

The boys are running out of the Menominee River in terror. They spotted a rare Northern Freshwater River Shark that roared its teeth.

Our vacation continues and we had a great day yesterday. Wrapping up the 4th of July holiday weekend, we first went to the pancake breakfast at the Stambaugh American Legion post. My father is a member as he served in the US army during the occupation of Germany after WWII. We then drove to Iron Mountain and purchased toiletries for Serbia next year. After the hell of WalMart, Jimmer and I took the boys to the Piers Gorge Protected Area. This is a section of the Menominee River that features rapids and cliffs and old growth white pines. Absolutely beautiful and one of my favorite places in the Upper Peninsula. We hiked to a beach area and as you can see from the photos on our flickr account, the kids had a great time. Kids are up, have to go.

Fourth of July Family Journal

Backyard BBQ, originally uploaded by bill kralovec.

We had a nice day on the Independence Day holiday on Friday. We hosted a family BBQ in our yard. A door and two saw horses served as a table but everyone had a nice time. In the morning, we went to the parade in downtown Iron River. In the afternoon, Owen and I went on our first bike ride. We did the entire 4 mile length. We all dressed in our American outfits. Despite living outside of the USA for the past 20 years, I am very patriotic. I am daily known as “the American” and so am faced with my nationality all the time. I love the USA for the promotion of the individual and a nation built on lofty ideals and not race or religion. Having lived in 7 different countries, I know that the USA is not the best place in the world. All countries and cultures have their good things and bad things and there is no “best place.”

Yesterday we went to the Circle Cafe in Alpha for breakfast. The people of Alpha have preserved the old school and are using the facility as the restaurant is inside. Good for them! Most of the old schools around here have been demolished throughout the years. Ever since the iron mines closed in the past 40 years the population has dropped in the area and many schools have closed. Where there used to be 5 high schools in the county there are now 2 and I feel eventually there will be only one.

In the afternoon Grandma came home from the hospital. She is still a bit down because of the ordeal. She takes 20 medications daily and the pain and hassle of severe diabetes is tough. More on her later. It is nice that she is back and enjoying time with her grandchildren. I did get time to take Owen and Oliver to Sunset Lake for a bit. We enjoyed the park and the beach. In the evening, Jim came over and we went for a walk on the Apple Blossom trail while Nadia ran. Oliver went the whole way on his big wheel. Ocean is now crawling across the room with ease.

Countries I Have Visited

My rule for counting countries is that I have to be on the land outside of the airport grounds for it to count, regardless of how long I am in the country. I also get to determine what is a country and what is not. Sometimes it is not obvious. The following are the countries I have been to in no particular order:

  1. United States of America
  2. Canada
  3. Mexico
  4. El Salvador
  5. Costa Rica
  6. Panama
  7. Colombia
  8. Venezuela
  9. Ecuador
  10. Peru
  11. Bolivia
  12. Chile
  13. Brazil
  14. Argentina
  15. Paraguay
  16. Uruguay
  17. Jamaica
  18. Trinidad & Tobago
  19. Grenada
  20. Barbados
  21. Saint Lucia
  22. Martinique (insular region of France)
  23. Antigua & Barbuda
  24. British Virgin Islands (UK overseas territory)
  25. New Zealand
  26. Australia
  27. Spain
  28. Germany
  29. Lithuania
  30. Serbia
  31. Bulgaria
  32. Hungary
  33. Croatia
  34. Slovenia
  35. Austria
  36. The Netherlands
  37. Finland
  38. Romania
  39. Bosnia i Hercegovina
  40. Estonia
  41. Montenegro
  42. Italy
  43. Bahrain
  44. Latvia
  45. Slovakia
  46. England
  47. Macedonia
  48. Greece
  49. Cyprus
  50. Sweden
  51. Denmark
  52. Japan
  53. Poland
  54. Czech Republic
  55. Turkey
  56. Malta
  57. Malaysia
  58. China
  59. Thailand
  60. Macau (special administrative region of China) – 2015
  61. Guam (unincorporated US territory)
  62. South Korea
  63. Singapore
  64. United Arab Emirates (Dubai)
  65. Uzbekistan
  66. Hong Kong (special administrative region of China) – 2019
  67. Turkmenistan
  68. Kazakhstan
  69. Tanzania
  70. Egypt
  71. Georgia 

Nadia’s List

  1. Australia
  2. Fiji
  3. New Zealand
  4. Bolivia
  5. USA
  6. Canada
  7. Lithuania
  8. Germany
  9. Chile
  10. Peru
  11. Brazil
  12. Argentina
  13. Venezuela
  14. Costa Rica
  15. Panama
  16. Serbia
  17. Hungary
  18. Croatia
  19. Slovenia
  20. Austria
  21. Romania
  22. Bosnia i Hercegovina
  23. Montenegro
  24. United Arab Emirates (Dubai)
  25. Turkey
  26. Italy
  27. Slovakia
  28. Macedonia
  29. Greece
  30. Cyprus
  31. Sweden
  32. Denmark
  33. Bulgaria
  34. Poland
  35. Czech Republic
  36. Japan
  37. China
  38. Malaysia
  39. South Korea
  40. Guam (unincorporated US territory)
  41. Singapore
  42. Uzbekistan
  43. Georgia

Owen’s and Oliver’s List

  1. Bolivia
  2. Venezuela
  3. USA
  4. Serbia
  5. Bulgaria
  6. Hungary
  7. Croatia
  8. Slovenia
  9. Austria
  10. Romania
  11. Bosnia i Hercegovina
  12. Montenegro
  13. Italy
  14. Slovakia
  15. Macedonia
  16. Greece
  17. Cyprus
  18. Sweden
  19. Denmark
  20. Poland
  21. Czech Republic
  22. Turkey
  23. Japan
  24. Australia
  25. China
  26. Guam
  27. South Korea
  28. Thailand (Owen only)
  29. Singapore
  30. Kazakhstan
  31. Uzbekistan
  32. Kyrgyzstan (Oliver only)
  33. Netherlands (Owen only)
  34. United Arab Emirates (Oliver only)
  35. Italy (Oliver only)

Ocean’s List

  1. Bolivia
  2. USA
  3. Venezuela
  4. Germany
  5. Lithuania
  6. Serbia
  7. Hungary
  8. Croatia
  9. Slovenia
  10. Austria
  11. Romania
  12. Bosnia i Hercegovina
  13. Montenegro
  14. Italy
  15. Slovakia
  16. Macedonia
  17. Greece
  18. Cyprus
  19. Sweden
  20. Denmark
  21. Bulgaria
  22. Poland
  23. Czech Republic
  24. Turkey
  25. Japan
  26. Australia
  27. China
  28. Guam
  29. South Korea
  30. Singapore
  31. Uzbekistan
  32. Kazakhstan
  33. Kyrgyzstan
  34. France
  35. Monaco
  36. Tanzania
  37. Italy
  38. Georgia

Sebastian

  1. Bolivia
  2. Canada
  3. Venezuela
  4. Indonesia
  5. Singapore
  6. Thailand
  7. Philippines
  8. Vietnam
  9. Serbia
  10. Slovenia
  11. Bahrain
  12. Hungary
  13. Croatia
  14. Laos
  15. Argentina
  16. USA
  17. Romania
  18. Dubai
  19. France
  20. Austria
  21. Singapore

Family Journal: Wednesday July 2, 2008

Owen Rides a Bike, originally uploaded by bill kralovec.

Huge day yesterday as Owen rode a bike on his own for the first time. I really didn’t need to help him much as he was ready to go. We have rode bikes with training wheels for a couple of years now and lately he has been talking of taking them off. We borrowed a bike from my brother.

Yesterday we took the kids to Iron Mountain. Nadia did some clothes shopping at JC Penny with my sister-in-law Michelle, and Jim and I took the kids. We first stopped at the Pasty Oven for lunch. We then went over to a park in Quinnesec and that is where Owen just took off. He went around the block several times. Quite emotional for me and an important milestone for him. Owen is quite coordinated and athletic so bike riding came quite easy to him. We also went to Lake Antoine and went for a short hike.

After returning to Caspian, Nadia played in bocce (a post on this later) at the Duc of Abruzzi courts. We finished up the evening by going to Scott’s Subs for ice cream. We didn’t visit my mother in the hospital because she was sleeping. She continues to stay at the ICCH.

Colombian Military Rescues Hostages

It was great news to hear that some high profile hostages were rescued from the FARC yesterday. Included were ex-presidential candidate Ingrid Bentancourt and three American military contractors. The photo below is from the Washington Post and shows the three guys in 2003. They have been held captive for years.

I lived in Barranquilla, Colombia from 1992-97 and have strong feelings about the situation.

The FARC (Revolutionary Armed Forces of Colombia) is a guerrilla movement against the Colombian government. There insurgency has gone on for decades and they controlled big portions of the country. The movement started because of the inequalities in Colombian society. In Colombia and other Latin American countries, the gap between rich and poor is immense. The majority of population is poor. A hard-working and talented individual has a difficult time in bettering his/her life and that of his/her children. There are many ideas on whose fault this is. There is not a strong community consciousness in Latin America. It shows in the lack of infrastructure and aid to the less fortunate of the society.

Throughout the decades of struggle, FARC has relied on kidnapping, drug trafficking, and terror to fund and promote their cause. This has caused great tragedy to thousands of lives of ordinary Colombian citizens.
In recent years the US government has greatly aided Colombian president, Alvaro Uribe in his fight against the FARC. The Plan Colombia funnels money and technical military assistance into the country and Colombia now ranks only behind Israel in US foreign aid. Uribe’s father was killed by another guerrilla group in Colombia and he has been relentless in his fight against them. The plan is working as in the past year, many top commanders have been killed and the FARC is in disarray. The latest success in rescuing their “top” hostages is another serious blow to the organization. It looks like their days are numbered.

A few months ago I listened to the interviews with released hostages. The Venezuelan government did a deal that got several hostages free. The interviews were shocking and they described life in captivity. No medical attention, chained to trees in the jungle, etc. I can only imagine the horror and sadness with them and their families. Worse yet, there are still over 700 people being held by the FARC.

I really hope that the FARC and other groups are wiped out. I also hope that Uribe and the leaders of Colombia, continue to receive US aid. Not only to wipe out the terrorist groups, but more importantly to assist in getting rid of poverty. If the US would concentrate more on this instead of anti-drug aid, Latin America and the US would both be ahead.

Family Journal: July 1, 2008

Family With Grandma, originally uploaded by bill kralovec.

We were back at my parents’ home in Caspian. We took the morning washing clothes, making Ocean’s food, and cleaning. I assisted with the summer work projects in Anaco via email and phone. Much of the day spent with tending to children (que sorpresa). In the morning I took the kids up to the Caspian Community Center park to give Nadia time alone to work. In the afternoon I took Owen and Oliver to the Ottawa National Forest and we hiked from Orville’s bench to the beach.

Nadia is a bit stressed with all the things we have to do still before we leave for Serbia. We had three big stress ors this year in our lives with a birth, new jobs, and a move to another country. We’ll keep plugging away and taking care of these things.

We all went up and visited with my mother yesterday. She is battling diabetes and it is frustrating to watch. For someone who never smoked or drank her whole life and exercised daily, the long term effects of the disease have really did a lot of damage to her which she did not cause through an unhealthy lifestyle. She was diagnosed with diabetes when I was in high school. It runs in the Heikkila family. To top it off, she was born with only one kidney that was 1/2 the size of a normal kidney. She received a transplant from her brother Dan over 10 years ago, so with the insulin and hypertension pills, she also takes anti-rejection drugs. The hypertension and kidney failure are attributable to diabetes. It is amazing the just because a small region of the pancreas does not produce a chemical hormone (insulin) that it would cause all these side effects. She has been injecting insulin for many years and takes her sugar levels many times daily, but despite careful control of the disease, she is still suffering the long-term damage that comes with the disease. In recent years, her circulation is very poor in her legs (again, diabetes is the culprit here) which is causing painful swelling. The American Diabetes Association has a lot more information on the disease.

We bought a Florida Lotto ticket for 52 draws (good from June 11, 2008 – December 6, 2008). Our numbers are 07,15,20,25,26,30

Family Journal: Monday June 30, 2008

Kralovec Grandchildren, originally uploaded by bill kralovec.

Pictured above are the five Kralovec grandchildren. My mother got shirts for her five grandchildren in the birth order. Owen being the oldest is number one and Ocean the youngest being number 5. Will there be more? I think only if my youngest brother comes through with more kids because both Jim and I have wives that are surgically done having children.

We got together yesterday for Tony’s fifth birthday (number 2 grand child) at my brother’s house in Iron Mountain. Earlier in the day we took the kids to see the movie Wall-E. Despite great reviews from the critics, I didn’t like the movie. We then went back to Jim’s house and had the party. In attendance were Michelle’s father LeRoy and grandmother “Peanut,” my parents, and our families. We ate a lot and had a good time, although Oliver, Beau, and Tony fought a lot.

The party wrapped up a couple of busy days for us. Saturday we went to Marquette about 90 miles north east of Iron River. Jim and I took the boys to the Upper Peninsula high school football all-star game. It was in the “Yooper Dome” a domed stadium on the campus of Northern Michigan University. Marquette is on Lake Superior and we had a nice time on the beach.

The next day we drove to Green Bay, Wisconsin to visit our friends the Bonetti’s and do some clothes shopping. I completed my new ISB professional wardrobe and we had a great time with Mark, Donell, Brandell and Lauren. They have a beautiful home in the suburb of Bellvue and they even watched the boys while we shopped.

There was a bit of sadness yesterday at Tony’s party. My mother’s health continues to deteriorate and we needed to take her to the hospital last night. She is a diabetic and has lost much weight this month

Today, July 1, we are cleaning and organizing our lives again after two days of travel and assisting my parents.